Welcome to CDD
An Overview of this Website
What is our intention?
This website is intended to be a haven for married couples who practise safe and consensual Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD), or for those who would like to learn more about CDD. It is intended to provide support and encouragement for those who believe in traditional Christian marriage, with the husband as the head of the household, and the wife as his helpmeet.
This website is intended to provide a refuge for those interested in a Christian Domestic Discipline marriage. Here they might find information and share fellowship with other CDD couples without having to wade through pornography, warped practises, or distorted ideals of what we believe God created for marriage. This site is not the typical "spanking" site prevalent on the web. This site focuses mainly upon improving marital relationships by sharing the guidelines and marital roles listed in God's Word.
What is CDD?
A Domestic Discipline (DD) marriage is one in which one partner is given authority over the other, and has the means to back up that authority, usually by spanking. The application and practise of DD in each marriage is as unique as the individuals who make up that marriage. There is no "One Ring of Power" in the Domestic Discipline world, to which all DD couples must bow; no singular path to "true DD enlightenment". What works well for one DD couple may not be a good fit for another marriage. Therefore, you may see many different suggestions espoused on this site and elsewhere.
A Christian Domestic Discipline (CDD) marriage is simply a traditional, male-led, Christian marriage which utilises aspects of Domestic Discipline. It is set up according to Biblical standards.
Therefore, in a CDD marriage:
- The husband is the head of the household, whilst the wife is submissive to her husband as if the Lord Himself was her husband. See Eph. 5:22-24.
- The husband is to love his wife as himself, and as Christ loved the church. He is to be a servant, and leads by example. He is to lay down his life for her. See Eph. 5:25-29.
- The wife is to reverence her husband. She is to obey him, so long as his instructions are not in opposition to God's commands. See Titus 2:5, Acts 5:29.
He has the ultimate authority in his household, but this authority is tempered with the knowledge that he will answer to God for his actions and decisions. The final decision rests with him, and therefore, the final responsibility, whatever the outcome, is his to bear. A wise husband will not make a major decision without prayerfully asking God for wisdom, and without seeking his wife's counsel. Prov. 20:5
He is to be the head of the home. She is to be the heart of the home.
He is not a dictator. She is not a doormat.
He is not a overbearing Lord of the Estate, seeking to trample over his family. She is not some weak-minded lass, needing to be molly-coddled, or seeking to get straightened around.
He has the responsibility for leading his family and is accountable before God for their well-being and development. He has the authority to spank his wife for disciplinary reasons, but in real CDD marriages, this authority is taken quite seriously and usually happens rarely. Most CDD marriages do use spanking, generally for serious offences, such as the "Four D's" (Disobedience, Disrespect, Dishonesty, or Dangerous [as in dangerous choices... reckless driving, disobeying doctor's orders, etc]). Some CDD marriages also use non-corporal disciplines, such as writing lines, or the temporary forfeiture of a favourite privilege. Again, every marriage is unique, and CDD is much more than just corporal punishment or spanking.
CDD is not a "magic pill", and this website does not claim CDD will prevent all marital rows. It is simply a tool, one method which many couples round the world feel is quite effective in strengthening their marriages, and improving the quality of their relationship.
CDD is the husband loving his wife enough to patiently guide and unselfishly cherish her.
CDD is the wife loving her husband enough to follow his leadership and trust his direction.
A Christian marriage should embody selfless love and true romance.
A Christian couple is to be a reflection of Jesus and His Bride.
How clear is your reflection?
This style of traditional male-led Christian marriage may seem unusual in today's "modern", liberal, politically correct, anti-God culture. This unholy culture, with its radically selfish feminism, and wholesale bias against true manhood, launches relentless attacks against traditional Christian family values. (Keep in mind, this is also the culture with well over 50% divorce rates, both in the church and in the secular world. Most rational people would agree the "modern" way doesn't work so well!)
Romans 12:2 says, And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect will of God. Here, Paul warns us not to live like the world, not to be fashioned like them, or molded to the same pattern as they are, but to be changed. Strong's Concordance says, "literally or figuratively "metamorphose".
The traditional male-led Christian marriage has been practised throughout history and is still practised in many parts of the world today. Our American friends, for example, need only look back to the era just prior to the 1960's. Domestic Discipline was a widely accepted premise, oft seen in films at the cinema and programmes on the telly. Many companies showed it in advertisments. If you prefer not to utilise "modern, popular culture" as a guide, consider that DD also has quite a long history as a common literary theme, dating back hundreds of years, from several cultures worldwide.
What are our Website Policies?
We care not for censorship; rather, we prefer to provide various points of view regarding CDD. This will allow you, the reader, as a clever, intellectual adult, to make an informed choice for yourself. We also provide information drawn directly from, and inspired by, God's Word. Using this information, you may then decide what you believe is right, for you, as a couple. Please use wisdom, discernment, and good judgement in what you will and will not accept for your own marriage. This website and the information presented here is intended for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed do not necessarily reflect those of the ownership or management.
That said, there are a few things we will not debate.
What Tenets do we Accept?
1, The Bible:
God's perfect, complete, and inerrant Word. We will honor it as literal and valid for all time.
There is only one way to Heaven, and only one name by which mankind can be saved. That name is Jesus Christ. The Holy Son of God, Jesus lived a sinless life, died a sacrificial death, was raised as the Living Saviour, and now sits at the right hand of God the Father. One day, every knee will bow, and every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, according to Romans 14:11 and Phil. 2:11.
3, Marital Roles:
The wife is to submit to her husband, and the husband is to love his wife. See Eph 5:22-28.
4, Parties Involved:
CDD is practised between a man and a woman. In most cases, it is practised between a husband and a wife.
In CDD, the husband has authority to discipline the wife. The wife does not have authority to discipline her husband. See Gen. 3:16
What Topics do we not Discuss?
1, Non-Consensual CDD:
We do not condone truly nonconsensual CDD. See this article regarding "Non-Consensual Consent" for more information.
2, Spanking of Children:
We shall leave this to other blokes to argue over elsewhere. It shall not be discussed here in any depth.
Whilst we recognise by its very nature this can be an erotic subject, we will keep this website as clean and wholesome as possible. However, we will not seek to deny the erotic nature of some CDD marriages as we believe it is a natural consequence of following God's plan. After all, He created eroticism and sexuality to be enjoyed within the healthy, safe, and exclusive boundaries of marriage.
4, Things What God Defines as Evil:
Though some in today's culture may call CDD an
"alternate lifestyle", the Bible gives no clear command either way. Marital discipline is neither
commanded nor condemned in Scripture. However, God's word clearly defines some other
"alternate lifestyles", such as homosexuality, as evil. If you don't like it, there are plenty
of other sites. We will not accept posts glorifying such lifestyles. We are here to glorify God, not to
be politically correct or lauded by the masses.
Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and many there be which go in thereat: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it. Matt. 7:13, 14
5, Other Topics:
We do not discuss homosexual relationships, Female Dominant/male submissive relationships, or BDSM. This is not a dating service, nor do we list personal advertisments. We are not interested in your bratting escapades. If that is what you seek, you will find many places on the internet to fulfill your desires. However, this website shall not be that place.
Emails from those who seek to learn for a better, deeper understanding are welcomed.
Emails from those who seek to spew hate or intolerance shall be deleted without a second thought. Those who email to criticise anonymously with no interest in true communication shall also be deleted.
Again, it is our goal to provide information, fellowship, and a safe place for those already living
in a CDD marriage, or those interested in gaining a better understanding of CDD relationships.
It is not our goal to try to "convert" anyone to the Christian Domestic Discipline lifestyle.
It is not our goal to convince anyone of the validity of CDD.
We are not interested in being interviewed or appearing on any telly or radio programmes.
We are not interested in arguing, debating, or justifying our chosen lifestyle, anymore than we are
interested in arguing, debating, or justifying your chosen lifestyle.
If you disagree with our beliefs, and do not wish to continue further, click the little "X" at the top right hand corner of your browser, and Bob's your uncle, you've exited the website, mate!
We realise that everyone is not fit for CDD. Perhaps this seems strange or inappropriate to you. Consider that some of your very own "lifestyle choices" may be viewed as equally strange or inappropriate by others. You are entitled to your own opinion, as are we. We support your freedom to choose what works best in your marriage. We relish the same freedom.
Live in a manner so as to fulfil your solemn vows of matrimony, to develop a strong family, to serve Jesus Christ as Lord and the centre of your life, and to bring glory to God Almighty.
We seek to do the same.